Posts Tagged ‘BDSM’
BDSM Xxx Sex
For some people BDSM encounters by their very nature are Xxx so really the term BDSM Xxx sex might be a redundancy. But for some other people, meeting to act through a kink, to play at a party space designed for non-vanilla sexual activities is not truly sexual in a way that would even come close to Xxx sex.
Not all couples who engage in BDSM play are coupled as long-term lovers. Lots of friends share this interest and will certainly engage their kink or fetish in the presence of and with their friend but beyond some flogging or maybe needle play, there is no other activity that the friends get into that could be seen as sexual. There might be a decidedly erotic edge to all this activity but for some it is not sexual in the least…or does not lead to sex.
This is hard for the layman to understand of course as the words kinky sex are usually thrown around describing any activity, role-play, power exchange between couples, but for many kinksters sex is not part of the game. Sure arousal comes into play and there are plenty of people to do orgasm in their scene but for a good many people they are truly interested in only experiencing the sensation of their kink, alighting their senses, feeling close to their play partner, then moving on.
For many, the kink sets them up to go and have that Xxx sex with their regular full time partner. For others Xxx sex is the last thing from their mind and they lead rather staid sexual existences far from the kink scene. The irony of many a BDSM situation is that other than their specific kinks, people who play in the scene as seemingly calmer and straighter then most other people.
Xxx sex might just be one of those terms that the individual has to define for him or herself but one thing is true… BDSM can include or lead to Xxx sex and then again it doesn’t have to.
